Blaque In The City

The Real Reason People Want To Burn Down The Bop House

Kat Blaque discusses her experience as a SWer in the late 2000s and the recent hate towards this barely legal OnlyFans content creation house.
The Kittens in My Garden

Kat Blaque reflects on the loss of her mother and how two adorable guests in her garden have helped her grieve.
A Lone She-Wolf’s Limited Point of Reference

I’m used to being alone. When I was a child, it felt very lonely, but the older I get, the more normal it feels. As I’ve written about on here many times, I’ve shifted a lot over the past 10 or so years. I’d say at the height of my supposed attempt at being a…
Hot + Introspective- November 22

This was a fun and rather productive week. A lot of happened, a lot didn’t. Here’s what I thought was Hot and introspective. Here are some fun posts from my Instagram: JURIN ASAYA – PS118 (feat. Rapsody) Starting out this week with 90s rap vibes as XG’s Jurin releases a collaboration with the legendary Rapsody.…
Hot + Introspective November 16th

What’s Hot and Introspective for the week of November 16th 2025!
Hot + Introspective- November 8th

Kat Blaque shares Hot and Introspective things for the first full week of November!
Decolonizing Love, The Shemale Fantasy and Hierarchical Polyamory As A Trans Woman

Millie of Decolonizing Love has some interesting thoughts about trans women and hierarchical polyamory…
Laverne Cox and the Folly of Being a Woman Who Desires “Traditional” Men

Laverne Cox shared some quite troubling information about her past dating a MAGA guy for several years and I wish I could say this was a trend I was unfamiliar with.
Understanding Sam Rockwell’s White Lotus Monologue

Transgender content creator Kat Blaque breaks down Sam Rockwell’s White Lotus monologue about cross-dressing.
The “Best of Both Worlds” and Being Disinvited from A Swinger Party

Kat Blaque discusses her first time at a naughty party predominately populated by bisexual men and all of its subsequent fallout.
The Problem With Madeline Pendleton

Madeline Pendleton is just an example of a very common issue on the so-called left.
Loose Knots: My Black Transfemme Reality in the LA Rope Scene

Kat Blaque discusses her complex experience in the LA Rope scene as a black transgender woman.
Who’s The “Demurest” of Them All

Everyone’s talking about being “demure and mindful”, but what does that even mean and which transgender woman of color actually created it?
Patriotic Bikinis and Other Ironies

Kat Blaque reflects on the 4th of July 2024
Places and Spaces to Avoid in the LA Kink Scene

A list of spaces and places I warn people about in Los Angeles. Some worse than others.
Serenity Studios + Dark Magic Society: Nazis, Manipulation, Kids and The Handsy Drunk Who Calls The Shots

Breaking my silence about abuses I’ve experienced at the hands of LA’s most prolific BDSM + swing organizers.
Unblemished

Trauma and growth
Politically Queer, Socially Heterosexual

Being black and trans means I’m often given more queer street cred than I probably should.
Fetishized on Frenchman: A New Orleans Rendezvous

Being fetishized can really put a damper on your vacation.
The Split Realities of Transfemme Desire and Desirability

Kat Blaque discusses the duality of desirability when you are a transgender woman existing in a world that doesn’t fully comprehend trans women’s desirability.
Returning to My Roots

After having my Facebook and Twitter hacked, I’m finding myself reaching for a simpler time and returning to my roots.
My Facebook Fan Page Was Hacked: This is how Meta Responded

How a popular podcast scam stole my Facebook page and why I no longer feel I need one.
Trace Lysette Was “Disappointed” In My Review of Monica (2022)

Monica touched me but left me wanting so much more. Trace Lysette wasn’t a fan of hearing that, and it made me question whether or not I should apply the same critical lens I apply to all films to films starring trans women.
Bridget Ziegler Probably Isn’t Attracted To Women: Unicorn Hunters and The Thrill of Homophobia

Everyone’s talking about Bridget Ziegler’s supposed relationship with a woman, but they’re ignoring that her interaction with her husband’s victim was likely a reflection of her husband’s patriarchal control, not her own sapphic desire.
Hiding Your Transness Long-term isn’t Realistic…

You can’t build a productive long term relationship without transparency. When you make it a secret, it becomes a weapon to be used against you.
Is Sleepaway Camp Transphobic, if Angela isn’t “really” transgender?

Kat Blaque discusses Sleepaway Camp, transphobia and the argument that it isn’t transphobia if it isn’t about an “actual” trans person.
Dating “Preferences” and the Painful Burden of Being Less Preferred, But Always Desired

Dating “preference” discourse online feels odd when you embody the opposite of the beauty standard and have a long history of being mistreated by intimate partners.
The Problem With Transgender Dating Apps and Why You’re Getting More Trans Matches

Transgender Dating is complex, but fetishism often makes finding love online even more complicated for transgender women.
This Reality TV Couple’s Story Reveals The Reality of Sex Workers Dating Their Clients

Reality TV has always been mindless fun for me. From Blind Date, to Rock of Love, to The Bachelor, I remember some of my earliest ideas of relationships, unfortunately, came from reality television. Imagine my heartbreak when I’d learn that most of these shows weren’t reality at all, but heavily edited shows where good-looking actors would…
How to Join the BDSM Community, and What to Know Before You Do

The pros and cons of the BDSM Community and how to get connected to one.
Is “Based Chaser” a Chaser?

A few days ago, a video where a man expresses unflinching attraction to transgender women went viral on social media and it’s causing a lot of debate and discussion about trans attraction and whether or not the man in the video is a “chaser”. The short street-interview style video starts with a cis man asking…
White Supremacy, Assimilation and My Time as “One of The Good Ones”

I was raised in a small suburb in Los Angeles County, an hour east of the city. When I tell people about the racial demographics of my hometown, they often respond with some version of “oh that’s interesting”; because my suburb consisted predominantly of Chinese and Korean immigrants. Once my family moved out of the…
Yet Another Rebirth

I’ve lost track of the amount of times I’ve made posts like this on new blogs I’ve created. I started my first written blog on Xanga over a decade ago, and have since created several blogs all with the desire to reframe and re-represent myself. In truth, rebirth is a central part of who I…