Another week, another conflict I manage to get into because I’m passionate about people…

The Dapper Delinquent is a bisexual man who creates content about a wide range of issues, but I primarily seem to receive his content about how lesbians who reject men are a stain on the wider LGBT community. In his most recent campaign against “gold star identities”, he speaks of this supposed trend among, not just lesbians but also people of other sexualities, but primarily focuses his ire towards lesbians, who more commonly use the term.

A Gold Star Lesbian is a lesbian who has never been with a man. It’s often a term stated ironically, but some do use the term seriously. Those who do tend to use it to celebrate that, within a misogynistic culture where women are pressured to be with men, they never succumb to the pressure and have only been with women. In his video, Ty mentions those who unironically claim the term and then use it to attack other people. In several of his videos, he mentions lesbians rejecting bisexual women; often expressing disgust around them being with men. He bases most of his observations on his comment section or things he’s heard third hand. We are meant to take his observations and render a judgment towards those claiming gold star identities because, as he says “gold star identities are a huge problem in the larger LGBT community”.

But the problem with this is this is a conclusion he comes to that is emotional, but not proportional. If a gay person has managed to only ever have gay relationships in a culture that discourages them for having them, and rewards them for being in heteronormative ones, they are an extreme rarity within the larger LGBT community. When we are explicitly focusing on lesbians, we are describing an extreme minority within the smallest minority within the LGBT. So to describe them, even collectively as inherently problematic is an over exaggeration.

The basis of my issue with what the Dapper Delinquent is mostly that he speaks with authority about things he clearly does not understand, and he falls into misogyny and patriarchal thinking quite easily. Contrary to his insinuation, “gold star” is a term that refers primarily to lesbian women and his content may seem to suggest otherwise but you will not find many people using the term who aren’t referring to lesbians. Gay men tend to use “platinum”, but even that isn’t very common. Ty wants to have a conversation about transphobia and biphobia and the gay people who look down on others for ever considering the “opposite” gender. While I think this hypothetical gold star lesbian who is repulsed by a woman sleeping with a man may be worth criticizing if they truly look down on others for not being a gold star, I also know that the label is not synonymous with transphobia or rejection of bisexuals.

In some of Ty’s content specially about gold star lesbians, he suggests that those who use the term are transphobic because the term suggests that a woman has never been with a man. The insinuation being that trans women are men so naturally that would defeat the gold star status. However, many of the people I’ve known who have claimed the term are themselves transgender women or the partners of transgender women. They use the term to celebrate for themselves that they have never been with men, not to state that they only date lesbians (they don’t; most lesbians date bisexual women) and exclude trans women. So when he says these identities are a problem, he is ignoring that his understanding of this is incredibly limited and that he is not likely, as a man and non sapphic, to really understand this enough to offer thoughtful and necessary reflection on the issue. He is just pulling from a bias within society that shames women for not being available to men. It’s not that I disagree with the central point being made: that people should not be put down or discredited because of their sexual history. It’s that this is the conclusion made of lesbians the moment they express complete disinterest in men, and in much of his content, he seems not to make space for the possibility that a woman can be lesbian in a way where she has never desired a man.

While Ty does devote some of his time to speaking about non-lesbians who supposedly unironically claim the term, of course much of his content focuses on lesbians. He has accused me of not watching his content, so I figured I would respond clip by clip.

In this clip, he sets up a hypothetical where a man is asked about another man, and because the man in question isn’t attracted to men, he responds with either disgust or struggles to find an answer. In his rebuttal of this point, he cites this idea that many lesbians are able to conceptualize attraction to men. This is presented as something that is obvious or common. I think this is an important subtext to draw attention to because while I understand what he’s trying to say about how some lesbians are able to, bare minimum, mention a man they admire, this is particularly not true for gold star lesbians who have not ever experienced attraction to men. Ty criticizes a lot of thing about “gold star identities”, that are obviously bad like supremacy and transphobia, but it also seems like he has a hard time accepting that some women simply are not and never will be attracted to men, and an odd comment he liked and responded to seems to suggest that he is particularly suspicious of those who have not sexually experimented.

The central problem I have with Ty’s content has to do with what I know of being a woman in society and what I know is the disconnect between how lesbians conceptualize their sexuality and how our culture in particular shames them for it. When a woman says she’s a lesbian, the first thing often said back to her is “are you sure? How do you know if you’ve never tried it?”. A culture that centers men, views a lack of attraction to them as a defiant rejection. It’s not just that lesbian aren’t attracted to men, it’s that they have “rejected” them. Lesbians are often told they are simply confused because they have not found the right man. Even if Ty devotes some of his time to criticizing gay men who supposedly brag about never being with women, he should be incredibly aware of the fact that this is a very common, and often violent suggestion made towards lesbians. The idea that these women have yet to meet the right man leads to “corrective rape”, where lesbians are assaulted by men in order to fix them. For many lesbians who are not gold star, their relationships with men are deeply traumatic because they were forced on them. This is partially why I do not see the point in attacking the extreme minority of women who have avoided that trauma. A comment I received did a really great job of speaking about this.

There are many people to hear “lesbian” and think that it’s a challenge. Many men conceptualize that deep down inside a lesbian will, at some point, be attracted to a man. There’s often a confidence around this that I myself have been privy to as a polyamorous trans woman. When I acknowledge that I am not attracted to women, there are many people who refuse to believe me, and I believe lesbians are often experiencing the other side of that. Gender essentialism suggests that women are naturally attracted to men and those who are designated male, regardless of gender identity, will by nature be attracted to women. But of course this isn’t true, and it especially isn’t true for gold star lesbians.

What Ty should have done is register that the expectation for lesbians to eventually be attracted to men is much more common and much more dangerous than a gold star lesbian believing she is superior to those who’ve slept with men. If he can understand bias, he should understand why lesbians have had a negative response to his content about gold stars. He is a man expressing negative feelings about women who have never been with men. He is policing relationships he is distinctly not involved in and he’s folding transphobia and biphobia into “gold star identities”.

What’s very interesting is the woman he has called out for rejecting a bi woman came out and pointed this out.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTSaMPpXT/

“Queer” is a reclaimed slur that many people, self included, have complicated thoughts about. It makes sense to me that the term would resonate with someone like Ty, who to my understanding is bisexual and has perhaps a complex gender identity on top of that. Many people feel solidarity under the queer label and appreciate that it is not a label that specifically nails down an identity. For many it is a fluid identity that can apply to them regardless of how their identity shifts. However, lesbians are often protective of lesbian identity because, again, they exist in a culture that does not celebrate or respect that they are truly women who love women. Beyond this conversation, there is a persistent trend of attempting to erase lesbian identity. When I first started making content about Lesbophobia, I noticed that my content would often be censored or the automated content filters would mark it as inappropriate and adult. Lesbians are objectified to the point where the term “lesbian” is often seen as an inherently pornographic term that needs to be censored.

Again, it’s not that I disagree with what he’s saying per se. Queer is a term many use and in the way I don’t think we should police lesbian identity, I don’t think we need to police other’s queer identity. Obviously attacking someone for being proud of their label is a bad thing, but clearly this isn’t really a grace extended to lesbians. The conclusion seems to be that those who reject the term queer only do so because of bigotry, and he again, cites transphobia as one of the main reasons. The suggestion here is that lesbian is a less inclusive term than queer, and that the people who reject it do so out of bigotry. I know that isn’t true as a person who does not identify as queer. For me, it’s just a term that doesn’t resonate with me and I’ve always felt that way. The people who tell me I should embrace it tend to have a very paternalistic attitude where they think they can tell me about how to more properly identify. This is just him policing how lesbians describe their own experiences. Lesbians should be able to describe themselves however they want.

Ty will often take a comment made by one or two people and make present it as a supposed trend, but it seems a bit to me like this is the full extent of his engagement. I have the response to do to his content because I live in a big city where I am a community organizer for queer events. I’ve been within sapphic spaces more than a few times and I’ve often helped promote them. If your entire exposure to lesbians is internet discourse, you’re going to get a lot of content that vents about the closed mindedness of lesbians, often by non lesbians who feel entitled to attention from lesbians. You’re also going to get those extremely introverted, often reactionary lesbians who use the internet to say what they can’t say in their own communities. I see so much content online about how these spaces are exclusionary, and don’t get me wrong, sapphic events are not perfect, and often have an issue of race and access with many sapphics desiring events that aren’t centered around substance use. However, if you assume that lesbians are bigoted towards trans people, you are simply not understanding just how complex and expansive these spaces are when it comes to gender.

Regarding lesbians as uniquely transphobic lesbophobia that doesn’t align with reality. The last sapphic event I went to was full of trans women, and even some trans men. Lesbians often have a complex relationship with gender and while, sure, plenty of lesbians have no desire to sleep with trans women, my estimation is people tend to assume lesbians are significantly less interested in trans women than they are. I remember when I first went to these spaces and got hit on a ton and I was initially confused because that didn’t align with what the Arielle Scarcellas of the world had told me. It seems to me that there are a lot of people sharing their basic opinions of lesbians who have never been around lesbians. The most they know is that a lesbian does not sleep with men, and from there, people try to make a larger conclusion about lesbians that is presents their rejection of men is somehow problematic. This is the same conclusion homophobes make about lesbians.

Ty is not a lesbian and as a non-lesbian, he should not care how lesbians define their own sexuality. Even if he doesn’t mean to make this inference, when he makes a video like this as a man, it comes off as him resenting lesbians for distinctly excluding men. The use of “non men” in this context is to acknowledge the complex relationship lesbians have with gender. There are many people who are lesbian in terms of their gender identity, who do not identify as women. Of course this is going to be confusing to non-lesbians who conceptualize that lesbians are women loving women, and ignore that there are people who are lesbian who don’t identify as women, but do identify as lesbian. However, this disconnect is another great example of the difference between being in community and observing it as an outsider.

Online we have been having a back and forth debate about how trans men shouldn’t identify as lesbians, with many people using what little they know of both trans men and lesbians to say that trans men would feel uncomfortable being folded into the lesbian community. And sure, while that’s very true for many transgender men, there are many trans men who’ve formed community with lesbians, and some who’ve been community organizers for lesbians for decades before recognizing they were trans men. There are a decent portion of trans men who still identify within lesbianism and date women who identify as lesbians. Outsiders obviously are confused by that, but this is yet another reason why many lesbians will prefer dating other people who are themselves lesbian. There’s no need to explain yourself, and many people want to be with people who understand them and shares a similar position in society.

In another series of videos, Ty goes off about yet another thing he saw online, but this time it was a lesbian who committed the sin of wanting to date a lesbian. Again, I do not think Ty is very self aware of the optics of him making a video like this. He is a white man turning to the camera and dictating to lesbians how they should date women, and which women they should date, and of course he highlights the closed minded nature of a lesbian desiring another lesbian.

Biphobia is a very real, very harmful thing. When lesbians reject bisexuals, it’s not hard for me to imagine how hurtful that is, and how that invalidation within a heterosexist culture may cause them to withdraw from queer relationships in favor of heteronormative ones. A lesbian who doesn’t want to date bisexuals who are currently being courted by men understand that our culture privileges bisexuals women for partnering with men. Erasure is your sexuality is not privilege, but a lesbian cannot hide her queerness and thus lesbians often have to contend with a reality where they are othered because of they only love women. Lesbians preferring other lesbians isn’t always about their fear of being replaced by a man or a particular resentment for bisexuals. Again, one of the benefits of being a lesbian dating a lesbian is that there are certain things you don’t have to explain, and for a lesbian who is already isolated within society because she does not date men, dating a woman who dates men puts her in contact with men in a way she may not personally desire. Going back to one of Ty’s original points about how some lesbians are able to conceptualize their attraction to men, bi women will often want to discuss men in a way where they expect participation from the lesbian involved. Many lesbians report that their online dating experience has often been derailed by unicorn hunting couples where the man is presented as a potential third much later in the relationship. Sure, viewing every bisexual with a lens of suspicion is biphobic, but a lesbian preferring a lesbian in a culture where women are pressured to be with men is something I have a hard time taking issue with because I’m not involved. Gay people wanting to date each other makes a ton of sense to me, and while Ty does attempt to speak about men who do the same, his ire for lesbian women is palpable when he describes this desire as “bigoted”.

Again, I think this is another example of the disconnect between the observations he makes of lesbians online and how lesbians function socially. Most lesbians, because of our culture that pressures women, have at some point been with men or thought they were attracted to men. So a lesbian who rejects women who’ve been with men will find her dating pool will just get smaller and smaller. Lesbians who only date other lesbians are not very common at all. Many of lesbians arrive at the lesbian label, not because they’ve never tried it, but because they have and they have realized they do not feel for men that way. For many lesbians, the idea of being an experiment for a person attempting to figure out their sexuality is off putting. When lesbians express a preference for other lesbians it is often because they want to know the person they are with sees women as romantic potential. It’s simply true that there are bisexuals who will always view their queer relationships as sexual, but their heterosexual relationships as romantic. Many lesbians do not want to be in the position where they register that the person they’re with is using them to figure themselves out. However, the reality is that very few lesbians are even able to find other lesbians within the larger sapphic community so they do tend to date bisexual women. Lesbian are a minority among sapphics, which is also why so many people feel compelled to speak for them and over them.

Another point that needs to be made here is I believe his position as online observer also allows him to conflate several disconnected ideas. A gold star lesbian is just a woman who has never slept with a man, it isn’t a woman who never sleeps with women who’ve slept with men. In his imagination of the exclusionary gold star, the gold star lesbian looks down on any woman who has never been with a man. It’s a sort of queer purity culture that judges women for their sexual history. But that’s not really what many of the people who adopt the term unironically actually mean.

I am not going to deny that there are women who claim gold star status who do so to communicate that they are not interested in people with certain genitalia. I’m not going to deny that there are trans women who’ve been rejected by lesbians who are using the term and this is probably quite hurtful to them. That does not then mean the term is inherently transphobic or that there aren’t trans women who identify with the term because they’ve only been with women.

Here’s a great comment that speaks a bit about the history of the term:

“ @Ruthless: the actual history is murky, because it’s not well documented- the only facts we know and can point to is that the first time we can find a “written record” as it were, are in the early 90s. it was used by a comedian making fun of lesbians while talking about her year long relationship with a man, and at a similar time used in bisexual media (mostly zines, some are preserved online) also being derisive about what they called “feminist lesbians”, also known as political lesbians. If you’re familiar with feminist/lesbian history, you’ll know that political lesbians are in fact not lesbians- but women who thought of lesbianism as “the ultimate way” to cut men from your life, not women who had actual romantic or sexual interest for other women. anyway, the term was basically an insulting jibe of various levels of seriousness to lesbians of the time “what, do you want a gold star?”, and slowly turned into an actual term for something we didn’t really name before. Now, as always, we can’t help but be sexist and homophobic to lesbians, so now there’s community backlash to the term “gold star” something we didn’t actually come up with, to the best of anyone’s knowledge trying to trace it. There are a couple blog arguments that it “must of course have been used before this”, but that’s not substantiated anywhere, and lesbians active in the 70s and 80s don’t concur.”

When Ty says “fuck gold star identities”, he is critiquing how lesbians have reclaimed the term as a term for pride. He is criticizing women who do not like men for celebrating that they have not been with men, as a man. What I don’t think he registers is that many of the things he says in his videos are actually very old and outdated lesbophobic tropes and circling most of his conversations back to lesbians is part of why he does that; it’s a common and socially acceptable pattern of behavior.

While rallying against gold star identities , he describes people who recognized their queerness early as having “good fortune” for recognizing their queerness early on and then in reference to people who did not have heterosexual relationships, he goes on to suggest that “more often than not, you were too sexually awkward to even realize that you were queer”. I know his snazzy style and mustache may make this hard to see, but this is just a centuries old homophobic idea. Gay people have often been seen as turning to homosexuality because they do not have the ability secure heterosexual relationships. Lesbians are commonly believe to have simply been too unattractive to men, thus forcing them to be with other women. This is just your standard homophobia presented in a woke way. It also reveals the common resentment those who come to queerness later in life often have for those who come out when they are young.

For many people, discovering that they are gay in a homophobic culture is not “good fortune”, as he condescendingly scare quoted. It is actually something that separates you so much from society that many queer people never really feel at home until they finally meet other queer people who feel just like them. I remember the early days of recognizing that I was a trans woman and that I only dated men. It was an incredibly isolating time and it’s why I’ve become a community organizer in Los Angeles. As a gender queer child, I hungered for queer community, and I was very thankful to find it online. Yet while the internet may have given me a place to socialize with others, it also presented an amalgamation of ideas that were less relevant once I started forming community with queer and trans people. I point out Ty’s observation of lesbians being superficial because in a culture that is homophobic, of course he is going to be presented with less than flattering content about the only sexuality that excludes men. And of course, as a man, he’s going to feel a certain way about that. Pretending to be a neutral third party is quite silly. It’s clear to me that when he criticizes lesbians for rejecting bisexual women, or trans women, he’s doing that to support the women in his life, whom he cares for and I don’t think the desire to do this is inherently bad, but I do not think the reaction he has to “gold star identities” is totally disconnected from a history of Lesbophobia being normalized. Even in the very fact that he feels compelled to publish content criticizing a lesbian for who they date at all really seems off to me. And how he has chosen to to respond to criticism is very telling.

Ty is currently threatening to sue me for some of the content I made responding to his content where I cut through the bullshit and acknowledge the rape-y undertones of his content about gold star lesbians. I feel how I do about this because I know that in a room full of 100 lesbians, there are probably 4 of them that identify as gold star and one of them is probably trans. Of those 4, maybe one of them excludes trans women and is repulsed by women who’ve slept with men, but that also means that she now has very few women in that room who will ever fit her preferences. So functionally, he’s turning to that one woman and calling her a bigot for never sleeping with a man and being proud of it…and that just seems completely pointless to me. Ty seems to believe that lesbians need a man to tell them they are bigoted for not being with men, and only wanting to be with women who’ve been with other women, and he has devoted several videos to this topic. Looking up his name, he has made tons of content specifically about lesbians and he seems very determined to frame what is functionally an extreme minority within the smallest community of the acronym as toxic to the entire community.

People feel a lot of things when a woman calls herself a lesbian, and what I think is more true than there being a large group of “TERF” lesbians who think they’re better than everyone else because they’ve only slept with women, is that many people feel a certain way when a woman sticks to her guns about not being with men. Ty’s content should start from a foundation of understanding that lesbian are uniquely oppressed in a misogynistic culture that has historically rewarded them for being with men. With that understanding, you recognize the actual proportionality of this conversation. Ty does not understand that our culture is one where lesbians ARE sexually assaulted once they assert that they have only been with men and only want to be with men. He should have some self awareness around this if he is going to create content about bias as a white man.

The Dapper Delinquent benefits from the white supremacist patriarchal system that upholds gender essentialism. There is a reason he feels so comfortable having an opinion about who lesbians fuck. Personally, as a non-lesbian, this doesn’t feel like my business. Perhaps it is because I am a black trans woman, but I feel like as an outsider, it is not my job to dictate to anyone who they can and cannot date and sleep with. I am making this post because I am a person who feels very defensive of lesbians, and I’ve spent probably most of my life at this point in community with lesbians. I am not getting my understanding of lesbians from the media or from my comment section. I am often the token heterosexual in most of my friend groups and I kinda prefer it that way. Lesbians have always been my biggest ally. So it is very hard for me to listen to what Ty says and not immediately clock that much of what he’s saying is being said because he clearly does not know very many lesbians, but clearly feels for the women who he’s involved with who have been rejected by lesbians. This is not the first series of videos he’s made criticizing lesbians for being lesbian and desiring relationships with other lesbians. When you couple that with his comments about trusting someone’s sexuality label once they’ve “tried it”, it’s not very hard to see why some lesbians read his content as a promotion of corrective rape.

The thing is, I actually do believe that Ty doesn’t intend for the content to be taken this way, but to my point, he likely doesn’t understand this because he is not in community with lesbians. What I’m saying in this post is the result of my many years of knowing and humanizing lesbians within my own life. Ty clearly does not understand the actual depth of just how much women are pressured to be with men and why a lesbian would be proud of never being with one. Sure, if a lesbian puts someone down for being with a man, that may deserve some criticism, but to my point about proportion, this is an extreme minority within an extreme minority within an extreme minority. It is quite dangerous to present that and then conflate all of these separate things into the term used to describe women who’ve never been with men. Being gold star is not the same as being les4les and neither reject trans women by default and neither represent a large enough amount of lesbians to be presented as “a distinct detriment to the queer community”. It’s literally 4 people who tend to stay home anyways.

Placing this massive weight of blame on the feet of lesbians is very classic Lesbophobia and I do not feel bad at all for calling it out and for pointing out the sex pest subtext of many of these videos. When you accept that a woman’s body is her own and that her sex life is not about anything other than who she personally wants to have sex with, you feel uncomfortable forming such a deep opinion about who they have sex with and who they reject. In so many of these conversations, people try to suggest that I would feel bad about being rejected for my inherent qualities…and I am. It’s the commonality of my experience that makes me feel very differently about rejection than it seems many white bisexuals feel about rejection.

I feel for the bisexuals and the trans women who’ve been rejected by people because of who they are. However, I have noticed that many of them take this rejection and twist it into resentment for lesbians. It registers to me that much of this relates to online dating and discourses that were had virtually where people often conclude that lesbians are closed minded because of how they’ve rejected certain individuals. What’s sad to me about this is that offline, the lesbian community is not without its flaws, but is hardly exclusionary towards bisexuals and trans folks. Frankly, there is a part of me that has a hard time not seeing how men who insert themselves in these conversations seem to often do so to signal that they are a safer option for the community than the actual queer community. I worry about how that will likely isolate young sapphics from the community because they assume it is exclusionary and thus do not think they’ll be able to find community. The reality is, if you go into these spaces with an assumption of it being bigoted towards you, that will become a self fulfilling prophecy. Sapphic spaces are full of bisexual women and trans women!

A few weeks ago, I went to the Virgil on a random night for a house music event. On the other side of the bar was a much more poppin, much more well attended sapphic party called IrL World. I met this gorgeous black lesbian who was looking for other black women. I joined her as we went over to the next room to look for other black women. Slowly we amassed a small group of black with myself being the token straight girl, as usual. The room was full of a wide range of gender expression and one of the black women was actually there with a girlfriend of hers that is transgender. And that trans woman wasn’t the only one. I’ll be honest, lowkey I was surprised by how many trans woman I met at and saw at event. It would blow the mind of every outsider who assumes that sapphic events are a bunch of cis women with a clearly defined gender identity and expression. most of the women I met were lesbians but not all of them were. Bisexual women were not uncommon.

I do not think Ty’s reaction to lesbians who date lesbians and gold star lesbians is disconnected from the general negative response lesbians receive when they share share they are only attracted to men. Knowing how rare gold star lesbians are makes it obvious to me that this is misplaced frustration for lesbians being lesbians, not a justified resentment because of lesbians being biphobic or transphobic. This keeps coming back to a baseline resentment towards women for not being with men. There is literally no justification for policing a lesbian’s sexuality and Ty should be self aware enough to understand why the sheer amount of content he’s made about lesbians can be interpreted. I have no emotions at all about lesbians choosing to be with other lesbians or celebrating the fact that they have a never been with men. Even if they thought they were better than everyone else for it, that still wouldn’t make them an oppressor men or bisexuals. At the core of this is the idea that denial of sexual access is in some way oppressive, and I do not think that is a subtext formed independent of the misogyny that justifies the premise of homophobia.

So what if a lesbian withdraws her interest once she learns a woman she’s courting is also dating a man? So what if a cis lesbian doesn’t want to sleep with trans women? Pretending that is the most oppressive thing in the LGBT community is why people are reading these videos as a foundation for corrective rape. Because ultimately…where else does this go? What does the lesbian who after years of being told to be with men, who knows she only wants to be with a lesbian do with the information that she’s bigoted for understanding who she wants to date? If she said she was bisexual, Ty would celebrate her, especially if she’d actually tried to be with a man. If she said she was queer, and not a lesbian, Ty could celebrate her. If she slept with trans women, as a sexual experiment, Ty would celebrate her. But why does Ty’s opinion even matter? Why does a man’s opinion about lesbians in a culture where lesbians are suppressed matter more than what lesbians say about themselves? Why isn’t a lesbian allowed to deny anyone she wants for any reason she wants? It is wild to me that people just cannot imagine that a lesbian is allowed to say no.

Ty is victimizing himself currently on his platforms, but it’s quite important that he is reminded that as a bisexual man, he holds systemic power and the ability to oppress lesbians. For that reason, I do hope he reconsiders his desire to host these conversations. He is largely taking what are incredibly rare experiences to essentially make grander statements about lesbians, in defense of bi women and trans women. But his sheer anger towards me for speaking up for lesbians really says a lot. He doesn’t like when anyone stands up for lesbians, and he doesn’t even understand that the lesbians he is attacking currently do foil his preconceived notions about gold star lesbians.

It should be acknowledged that he insists upon reaching certain conclusions about lesbians without really listening to them or speaking with them. He remains completely apathetic towards their actual lived realities. Instead, lesbians exist as a rhetorical tool. As bullies who’ve denied men, for whom he naturally associates with transgender women. A man who understands the basis of misogyny, would not so easily criticize the sex lives of oppressed women, especially as a white man. I think at the end of the day, this is another example of me being able to see through a performatively woke person who is able to pass as woke because society views him as inherently more trust worthy because he is a white man. These people always hate actually engaging with the subjects of their criticism. He does not want to hear that gold star doesn’t mean what he thinks it means from lesbians or their allies. He is currently threatening to take me to court and have me incarcerated during a time where trans women are experiencing a genocide and people are being placed into concentration camps. All over women who’ve never slept with men. That should truly disturb his audience.